When we welcome a newborn into the family, one of the biggest challenges is adjusting to their unpredictable sleep habits. Unlike adults, newborns don't sleep through the night.

Instead, they sleep in short cycles of 2–4 hours, totaling 14–17 hours in a 24-hour period. This is completely normal and necessary for their growth and development. Knowing this helps us set realistic expectations and feel less stressed about those late-night wake-ups.

Why newborns wake frequently

Newborns have small stomachs and need to feed often—usually every 2 to 3 hours. That's one major reason why they wake up so frequently. They're also learning to regulate their sleep-wake cycles. Their internal clocks (circadian rhythms) haven't developed yet, so they don't know the difference between day and night.

Creating a calm sleep environment

Even though newborns don't follow a strict schedule, we can still help them feel more secure by creating a calming sleep space. Keep the room quiet, dimly lit, and at a comfortable temperature. Using soft white noise or a gentle lullaby can help soothe them. A swaddle can also mimic the feeling of the belly and help reduce startle reflexes that wake them up.

Follow safe sleep practices

Safety is always the top priority. We should always place babies on their backs to sleep, on a firm, flat surface like a crib or bassinet with no pillows, loose blankets, or stuffed toys. Sharing a room (not a bed) for the first six months is often recommended, so we can stay close and respond quickly when they need us.

Watch for sleep cues

Newborns can't tell us they're tired with words, but they give signs: rubbing their eyes, yawning, fussing, or staring off. When we notice these cues, it's a good time to try putting them down for sleep. Waiting too long may lead to overtiredness, which makes it even harder for them to fall asleep.

Use a flexible routine

It's too early for a strict schedule, but gentle routines help babies feel more secure. We can start with a simple pattern: feed, cuddle, diaper change, then sleep. Over time, this rhythm becomes familiar and comforting to them. Keep nighttime interactions quiet and calm so they learn that night is for sleeping.

Nap time matters too

Daytime naps are just as important as night sleep. Newborns need several naps throughout the day, and helping them get enough rest during the day actually improves nighttime sleep. Try to keep naps in a consistent, calm place if possible, and don't worry if each nap is short—some babies only sleep 30–45 minutes at a time.

Take care of ourselves too

Caring for a newborn is joyful, but it's also tiring. We should remind ourselves that it's okay to nap when the baby naps, ask for help, and take breaks when possible. When we're rested and calm, it's easier to care for our little ones with patience and love.

Every baby is different

Some babies sleep longer stretches earlier, while others take time to settle into a rhythm. What works for one family might not work for another. It's okay to try different soothing techniques until we find what helps our baby relax. There's no one "perfect" way—as long as our baby is safe, loved, and growing well, we're doing great.

Let's grow through this together

Newborn sleep can feel overwhelming at first, but it won't last forever. With time, patience, and a few gentle routines, we can help our babies sleep better—and help ourselves feel more confident along the way.

Lykkers, if you're caring for a newborn right now, you're not alone. What's been the most helpful tip or trick you've learned so far? Let's support each other and make this beautiful (and sleepy) season just a little easier.

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